By: O.L./Sway Buckley
We used to have the misconception that both spouses must be alike to gel.
Now there should be congruency in core beliefs and objectives; however, it's true in many cases:
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In fact, ImagoRelaionshipsWork.com reports,
In fact, for a strong and enduring marriage, a shared set of core family values is essential. But not only is it possible to save your marriage when you and your partner have different personality types, but those differences are also often what helps long-lasting, happy marriages thrive.
As we can see, our differences keep things interesting in a marriage.
But what do we do when two spouses prefer different methods of resting?
(This sometimes has to do with differences in capacity too, but that's for another article).
For example, you may plan to go on a vacation this summer. Right?
Do you have a smooth way to work through opposite preferences on how to relax? (if you want to do it together.)
This same question is valid for weekly downtime as well. Since resting should be a part of the lifestyle of marriedpreneurs to thrive in all areas of life, this is a point to consider.
For example, in our marriage, one of us likes to 'paint the town red,' and the other prefers 'breakfast in bed' (and staying there!)
In the past, this may (or may not) have caused tension in our relationship because we want to enjoy resting together.
So, over the years, we've learned to compromise together.
We usually start with the 'breakfast in bed' part (and stay still for the first day or so, then decide on the 'top' outside events, knowing that too much will drain one spouse (while it excites the other).
Depending on the situation, we've created things that we can do independently but work to do most relaxing together to make memories.
Whether it's relishing in a rest day each week at home (or locally) or some exotic island on an extended stay, the goal is always to be refreshed, and that may look a little different for each of us, and that's ok.
The main thing is that we stay communicative and flexible.
It helps when we do our daily legacy meetings to stay on track. If you're a marriedpreneur couple seeking a system to keep talking and grow together vs. apart, consider having legacy meetings. If you need a template, grab our marriedpreneur legacy meeting checklist here.
Here's to living purposefully, powerfully, and profitably in sync,
O.L. & Sway
O.L. is a former banker turned real estate consultant and entrepreneur. Sway is a former CEO of a staffing firm she started on her dorm room floor to pay for college. Together they co-own Marriedpreneur Life Consultancy, equipping faith-based married entrepreneur couples with high-level systems to scale (without strain). They're the creators of the Marriedpreneur Operating Systems and the co-hosts of The Marriedprenuer Life Podcast, which was praised as one of Wedding Wire's top relationship podcasts. Learn more at MarriedpreneurLife.com.