By: O.L. and Sway Buckley
The thing about self-sabotage is you don't know you're sabotaging yourself until someone points it out.
It's a vicious cycle that, if not confronted, stunts growth.
Today, we will highlight the areas where self-sabotage hides concerning business growth for marriedpreneurs.
Sef-Sabotage happens on various levels.
Positive Psychology defines self-sabotage as:
Self-sabotage occurs when we destroy ourselves physically, mentally, or emotionally or deliberately hinder our success and well-being by undermining personal goals and values (Brenner, 2019)
The article goes on to say:
Another dimension of self-sabotage is cognitive dissonance. Cognitive dissonance is the internal imbalance or discomfort experienced when words or actions do not align with beliefs and values. Chronic self-sabotage depletes drive and motivation, leaving us sad, anxious, and with damaged self-esteem.
Check out these signs:
1: Perfectionism: Waiting for everything to be faultless before making progress is a dangerous trap
2: Chronic Disorganization: A lack of systems for tracking and finding things is a never-ending rabbit hole and is often an outward manifestation of what's happening internally.
3: Imposter Syndrome: Feeling like a fraud, even when you're performing well, caps your growth potential
To name a few.
When the situation requires professional support, Dr. Edward A. Selby, who serves as the Director of Clinical Training for the Rutgers Clinical Psychology Ph.D. program, shared with Psychology Today that, When seeking professional help from a therapist for self-sabotaging behavior, the most effective and helpful treatment currently available is a specific kind of therapy called Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT).
If the issue can be addressed at home, one of the practical ways we've worked through these not-so-obvious signs of self-sabotage is by having a clear daily strategy and high-level accountability. It's transformative and celebrates each baby step, so you're positioned to move forward despite the former defaults. If you and your spouse are building a business and seeking a strategy to do the same for you, schedule a success-mapping call today.
Here's to living purposefully, powerfully, and profitably in sync,
O.L. & Sway
O.L. is a former banker turned real estate consultant and entrepreneur. Sway is a former CEO of a staffing firm she started on her dorm room floor to pay for college. Together they co-own Marriedpreneur Life Consultancy, equipping married entrepreneur couples with high-level systems to scale without strain. They're the co-hosts of The Marriedprenuer Life Podcast, which was praised as one of Wedding Wire's top relationship podcasts to listen to. Learn more at MarriedpreneurLife.com.