By: O.L./Sway Buckley
Pressure has to go somewhere.
Men get tired, too.
Yes, men get weary.
I know this isn't a truth bomb.
And while no reasonable person would challenge that truth, it doesn't make it any easier.
Why would I only say men when it comes to getting tired and weary?
Do women experience these feelings, of course!
Because men are often frowned upon (generally speaking) when giving voice to these feelings.
The expectation is consistency. Consistency is the virtue of strong leaders, while being tired and weary are signs of those not yet ready for leadership.
If we're constantly being told the importance of consistency (which is extremely important) and not how to vent healthily, then some of us may become destructive. Self-destructive.
Sports, cars, art, food, and the homies are some ways some of us vent.
What about family, business, and marriage? How do we maintain consistency while leading responsibly and appropriately?
I have a few lessons from the trenches to offer insight into men being consistent and feeling free to vent responsibly. Here are a few nuggets from a guy who's worked since he was fourteen years old and has almost always held down more than one job since then.
ONE: Pressure has to go somewhere. If we don't vent responsibly, then we'll explode toxically. Additionally, this can result in physical and health consequences.
The sooner we can accept this truth, the better we're positioned to get out in front of it.
TWO: Consistency is not about being perfect as much as it's about being honest.
When being honest in real-time in your relationships (personally and professionally), you set the stage for being refreshed.
Three: Hold yourself accountable and let others see you hold yourself responsible.
Consistency indeed builds respect and trust. But all consistency is built on a foundation of honesty. It's called managing expectations and others.
Fourth: Build margin. In other words, we need to build in the margin between events, meetings, dating, and all the other million things we have to do so we'll burn out faster and frustration will take over.
If you're looking for insights on systems that help keep you two working powerfully in sync AND show you how to build margin for the millions of things that have to get done, schedule a free success mapping call with us here.
It's easy to find books, articles, and various writings on focus and how to get it, use it, and sustain it.
Here's to living purposefully, powerfully, and profitably in sync,
O.L. & Sway
O.L. is a former banker turned real estate consultant and entrepreneur. Sway is a former CEO of a staffing firm she started on her dorm room floor to pay for college. Together, they co-own Marriedpreneur Life Consultancy, equipping faith-based married entrepreneur couples with high-level systems to scale (without strain). They're the creators of the Marriedpreneur Operating Systems and the co-hosts of The Marriedprenuer Life Podcast, which was praised as one of Wedding Wire's top relationship podcasts. Learn more at MarriedpreneurLife.com.